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Knowing how to start the conversation can be the hardest part. We have compiled multiple resources to help you navigate through the conversation.
Talk About How Your Kids Can Communicate Boundaries
Hey, how are things going at school with your friends? … I have heard some other parents talk about a few situations of kids experimenting with drugs. Have your friends been talking about that at all? … You know, if you are ever offered drugs, you should feel totally confident just saying “no thanks.” But if you feel uncomfortable, know that you can always blame it on me and say that your mom/dad would take away your phone/sport/car/etc. if you got caught. And know you can always call me to come pick you up if you are some place you don’t feel comfortable.
Share Why and How Prescriptions Are Used
I saw a story on the news today about kids trying their parents' or their friends' parents' prescription drugs. You know, prescriptions are only for the people the doctor prescribes them to for many health and safety reasons. People are often allergic to certain medications and almost all medicines have side effects, which can affect people differently. It is really important to only take the medications prescribed to you by your doctor to keep you safe. What would you say if someone offered you their prescriptions or asked to have some of ours?
It can be tempting to talk about your own experiences with drugs. Keep the conversation to how you communicated boundaries and keep the door open for your child to talk about their own experience.
When I was your age, I remember people in my class experimenting with drugs on the weekends. I know the times have changed, but drugs are just as dangerous, and peer pressure is just as real. I wasn't perfect, but I played soccer and wanted to keep myself fit and out of trouble, and most people at school understood that. With all the things you have going on, be confident in saying you aren't going to try anything because you need to keep yourself healthy for (activity).
Check in About Stress Levels and Overall Well-being
Hey, how are things going? ... I know there is a lot of change at school this year. Some of it is really exciting and some of it might be a challenge. Just know that if things starts to get stressful, I am here for you and so is (trusted adult). If you are ever feeling overwhelmed, let us know and we will help find a way to work through it.
Just know that drugs and alcohol are not going to get you through the stress or make more friends. They can actually lead to anxiety and broken relationships. I really love and care about you, and will help you get through whatever you are facing.
If You Know Your Child Has Experimented with Drugs, Be Direct and Offer Support
I know you have been drinking/smoking/using drugs, and it is really upsetting to me. I know you are afraid of getting in trouble, but I already know, so now I really just need to know what is going on and what got you started even experimenting.
I love and care about you and want to help you through this. You deserve to be happy and healthy, and I am here to support getting you there.
Additional Resources and Conversation Starters
Carve Out Time to Connect
Between work, activities, practices and schoolwork, finding quality time together can be challenging. And, so often when families are together, devices and screens get in the way of truly connecting.
Create time or get the most out of your limited time together by working on a project or eating a meal with your kids. It goes a long way in nurturing a trusting and loving relationship.
It is often a parent’s role to start a conversation with their kids, especially as they get older into their teen and young adult years. But once the dialogue is going, the most effective role for a parent is to be a listener.
Allow your child to talk to you from their perspective, without being led in a direction of what you want to hear.
Listen both to what your child is saying and also to what they are not saying:
Repeat what they say to show you are actively listening. All people, no matter their age, want to be heard and understood.
Make Yourself Available
Kids need frequent reminding that you are there for them. They may not take you up on it often, but chances are days will come when they need you to listen, give advice or be a shoulder to lean on.
Tell them often that you are there for them if they ever need to talk. When they take you up on it, give them your undivided attention. Sometimes this will be when you are driving them to practice, sometimes it will be at the dinner table and sometimes it will be while you are in their room telling them to clean up.
Remove as many distractions as you can and make the conversation the most important thing.
Offer Love, Not Judgement
It is so easy to have an immediate and emotional reaction to something your kids says. For example, if your kid comes to you to tell you about a mistake they made, being frustrated is a normal initial reaction. But as much as you can, and it is not always easy, take a pause before responding to think how you can react with compassion.
How you listen and respond establishes trust and future dialogue.
Use these moments as an opportunity to remind them how much you love and support them. For additional conversation starters and tips for talking to your kids, check out this resources from Partnerships for Drug-Free Kids.
Information pulled directly from getthefactsrx.com.
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